Remembering Mom

“No matter what age . . . I’ll always need you, Mom.­” – Unknown

Family means so much to all of us here at Moloney Family Funeral Homes. We have a long history of family ownership in the greater New York area stretching back over 75 years, and we take great pride being part of this wonderful community.

RememberingMom-May2021This includes helping friends and neighbors say goodbye to the special people in their life. Each farewell is unique, just as each person is unique – and the loss of a mother involves a grief and heartache all its own.

“I truly never learned what the words ‘I miss you’ were until I reached for my mom’s hand and it wasn’t there.” – Unknown

Our staff at Moloney Family Funeral Homes has experience both personally and professionally when it comes to this kind of loss. Helping commemorate important relationships like the one between mothers and their children is something we feel passionately about. It’s why we make ourselves available to families before, during, and after the funeral – because we know how intense and raw the pain can be.

“A mother’s love is always with her children. Losing a mother is one of the deepest sorrows a heart can know. But her goodness, her caring, and her wisdom live on – like a legacy of love that will always be with you. May that love surround you now and bring you peace.” – Unknown 

When it comes to remembering mom, we’ve gathered ideas that have helped us and those around us.

  • Select a memento that belonged to your mother. This could be an item of clothing, a book, a blanket, or anything else that brings good memories to mind every time you look at it.
  • Create a scrapbook about your mother including photos, favorite quotes, and funny or poignant sayings she was known for.
  • Volunteer with or donate to your mom’s favorite charity. Chances are, your mother has an organization or a cause she holds close to her heart. If possible, schedule a time to volunteer together. Or give a donation in her name. This is a gift that keeps on giving – in honor of a very special woman.
  • Start a journal featuring memories and stories from various people who know your mother. This can be looked back on in years to come and added to anytime.
  • Plan a gathering on your mother’s birthday or the anniversary of her death. Look through photos, watch videos that include your mom, and share favorite stories.
  • Visit your mother’s final resting place. Bring along her favorite flowers, a wreath, or another memento to leave behind.
  • Frame a hand-written item such as a letter, a recipe, or even a signature. You might be surprised how much comfort can come from seeing your mother’s familiar handwriting and how many stories will be brought to mind. 
  • Prepare your mother’s favorite foods or meals together while listening to her favorite music.

A mother understands what a child does not say.” – Jewish proverb

As you grieve, remember we are always available to help you cope. We have connections to support groups and services to help you and your family, and we also have an extensive grief library full of books, tapes, and brochures available to all of Lake Ronkonkoma, Holbrook, and Central Islip. Don’t hesitate to reach out to our professional staff anytime.

“Mother’s hold their children’s hands for a while, but their hearts forever.” Unknown