I don’t ever come on here really and surely never post. But I just feel this post is very worth it, not to get likes or sympathy but to celebrate a life. That is the life of Mary Paone, or better known as Nana. Some people don’t ever get to meet their grandparents, I had that privilege for quite sometime. Both to who played a huge role in making me who I am today.
Nana, you truly were the definition of strength and everyone who had the pleasure to know you can speak to that. You and papa started this family and were there every single step of the way just incase someone started to falter. You always showed strength, love and perseverance ￼. You passed those valuable traits to your daughters Maria Paone Rascona, Louise Paone Ramsey, Phyllis Paone Norchi who then passed it to their children Rachel Ramsey Weir, Sarah Beth Ramsey, Kyle Norchi, Nick Norchi, Nicole Melvin and myself. You will live on forever in each and every one of us and all of us will forever hold the great memories as we continue to build what you started.
As I looked up to the sky tonight with its silence and calmness, I knew you made it to where ever you were going. So here’s to you Nana and what should be a celebration of your 94 years of making this world and our lives so much better just because you were in it.
My nana was a huge part of my life for the 44 years I have been on this earth. From my earliest memories, she was giving of herself in so many ways: through cooking for us, driving us places, sleepovers in her cozy basement, buying us clothes that we wanted so badly, taking us to Disney as children, keeping our favorite cookies in the house for our visits, bringing us snacks and magazines when we were home sick and later in life, watching my daughter when we needed help, showering my children with love and gifts and so much more. How do you sum up a lifetime of love and memories? You can’t. You can only hold onto it and use it to continue on with your own family. I am so grateful to my nana for teaching me how to love with your whole heart and give of yourself to your family. Knowing that she was able to see how my life and family turned out is such a gift. Every time I make a lemon salad or eat an S cookie, or buy my kids fun snacks when they’re sick, I will think of my nana and how she made our lives so much better by being in them. I love you, Nana, with my whole heart and soul. You will live on in me and our family forever.
I don’t know where to beginning because I could write forever and ever but today my family and I have lost the person who made us be a family in the first place, if it wasn’t for my Nana and Papa none of us would be here today! I can’t believe I am even writing a post like this but my Nana is finally at peace and back with the love of her life, my Papa! We have lost the most selfless, most caring, would do anything woman today and I’m glad her wonderful traits were passed down to my mom and my aunts, her daughters, because all of them taught us to be wonderful people! I will always remember my Nana as the lady who kept and molded our family, the lady who always had to be dolled up even if she wasn’t going anywhere and always had to put on lipstick to get the mail! She always told me the reason for that because you never who will drive by while your outside and you always want to look nice! I’ll never forget the one time she was in rehab and I went to visit she was the only one there fully clothed, hair done and face full of makeup and I said Nana your in rehab only us family comes to see you and she said Nicole yes but remember you never know who will walk into those doors I was like who Nana she goes you never know maybe the President of the State! we laughed so hard! I will always remember sleep overs at her house and her dippy eggs, pancakes and 2 kinds of bacon (crispy and wobbly) and always playing every type of board game, card game you can name! I’ll always remember she always let me and my cousin Kyle and brother give her make overs and I would get get upset and mad the boys always made her hair so flat and didn’t follow my directions. I still hear her voice saying Nicole stop cheating every time we play a game and let the boys win once! She was the best Nana around and I’m grateful I had her in my life for this long! RIP Nana go be with Papa and Mickey, give them a big hug and kiss from me! Please keep shining down on all of us and please know you and papa raised 3 wonderful girls and taught them everything they know and that’s why they were and still are the best parents to all of your grandchildren and great grandchildren! I love you Nana and will miss you so much!
Our mother was an amazing woman. She married our father Lawrence Paone in 1950 whom she loved and cared for until 2016 when he passed away. She was the youngest of 10 children born to parents who emigrated from Italy. While she was a traditional woman in many ways she was also very modern.
She is survived by Louise Ramsey, her husband Wayne Ramsey, Maria Rascona and Phyllis Norchi and her husband Thomas Norchi. There are six grandchildren: Sarah Solomos, Rachel and JT Weir, Nicholas and Nina Norchi and Kyle and Kristen Norchi, Nicole Melvin and AJ Melvin. She also has four great grandchildren who she loved dearly. They are Ava Weir, Chase Weir, Christopher Solomos, and Charlotte Solomos. These are the are the statistics, but she was so much more than this.
Our mother taught us about family and so much. She taught us cooking is love and family is everything. Being together was most important especially for the Holidays. As we grew up, she always made sure we were dressed well and even hand made many of our clothes even for our Barbie dolls. Large family gatherings were standard with extended family. Food, laughs, music always surrounded us. Long tables with traditional food for each holiday depending on the season standard. Homemade pastas and sauces, even lambs heads for Easter. These memories stand out the most.
When we moved to Hauppauge, she learned to play Mahjongg and had a weekly game which taught me the love of the game and the value of friendship. Gatherings continued throughout our lifetime. She taught us that everyone should be treated the same and that bigotry was wrong.
She was an amazing woman.
Our Mom was not only a family woman but she worked outside her home. She worked in a small dress shop called Country Aire, a boutique, where she was able to use her flare for fashion to help other woman dress well. When my parents invested in a Card Store in Deer Park, she was the bookkeeper and the person who choose inventory which made the business a thrive. When they retired to Manorville she made fiends, they traveled, and joined a senior club later becoming President of the organization ultimately being honor by Brookhaven Town Supervisor. We were so proud of her.
She was a loving Grandmother and was instrumental in raising her grandchildren so we could work. She was also a loving great Grandmother and always loved seeing them even when she was in decline the last few weeks.
We will miss her so much, but she lives on in each of us in the values she taught us and the woman we are. Drive Mama, drive! You’re free now and we will look for you in all that we see and all that we do.
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