Brenda Lee Kaya was born in Medford, New York on July 3, 1961 to her parents Adrianne and Harry Mistretta. The second of four siblings, Brenda was little sister to Henry, and big sister to Liz and Dennis. Growing up on Long Island, Brenda had many friends and was very close with her brothers and…
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Brenda Lee Kaya was born in Medford, New York on July 3, 1961 to her parents Adrianne and Harry Mistretta. The second of four siblings, Brenda was little sister to Henry, and big sister to Liz and Dennis.
Growing up on Long Island, Brenda had many friends and was very close with her brothers and sister. They’d ride bikes around the neighborhood and go out dancing. She loved to dance, she and Liz were
Go-go dancers in her brother Henry’s band. Together they always had fun, but sometimes were mischievous pranksters. One time, they had a food fight with instant mashed potatoes, covering each other in them.
When she was young, she liked sipping from her grandpa’s beer cup and learning to bake from her Nana. This fostered a lifelong love for baking. Always a caretaker, she used to climb into the crib with baby liz, and as a teenager she cut out pictures of babies and hung them on her bedroom wall, dreaming of having her own one day.
Being a big sister was practice for her true calling in life; motherhood. Her dream came true when she gave birth to her daughter Tina Marie , and her son Julio James(aka “jay”). She was a devoted, loving mother who was always there for her children, creating a special, everlasting bond with her warm spirit, big laugh, and when called for…..the eye” was all the discipline she needed.
On march 15,1987, Brenda met the love of her life: Ismail “Miles” Kaya, born two days apart. The two caught each others eyes when miles worked at a gas station- it was meant to be. They went out together, and soon enough were engaged to be married. Miles proposed over dinner at ladakins in Moriches. The loving couple tied the knot on April 26, 1990 and celebrated 33 years of marriage.
Brenda was a Loving Wife, Mother, Sister and grandmother. Now she is reunited with her beloved baby boy Jay in a better place, at peace together with all of her family’s angels, like her brother Dennis. Brenda will forever be loved and missed by all of her family and friends.
Kelli and John Puglisi
left a message on May 26, 2023:
Dear Miles, Tina, Michael and children,
We are so sorry for of your loving wife, mom and grandma. She was a special person who always made us feel welcomed. We will keep you all in our thoughts and prayers. We love you all!
Love,
Kelli, John and Family
John, Kelli, Katherine, Danielle
Rose Ortiz (Amaya)
left a message on May 25, 2023:
My Aunt Brenda was an amazing soul whose laugh was contagious. Her smile would light up the room and her strength was something you couldn’t compare to. She wasn’t my aunt by blood, but nothing could make her any less of that title to me. She was always so welcoming and accepted me as family since I was born. I am truly heartbroken by her passing and my prayers are with her loved ones left behind. To Nana Adrianne, Uncle Miles, Tina, Liz, Mike, her grandkids, and extended family my prayers and thoughts are with you always. Her presence will be missed but just know she is with the Lord, her baby boy Jay, and Uncle Dennis watching over you. She’ll be your protector and guardian angel. I love you all
Rest in paradise Aunt Brenda
Rose Gonzales
left a message on May 25, 2023:
Brenda was a great person. Kind,loving, caring and generous. She was one of a kind. Not my sister by blood but by choice. She was a great wife, mother and grandmother, aunt, sister and friend. Her loss is going to have a huge impact on her loved ones. I have many memories of her that will last forever. I will always miss her. My heart aches for Mom Adrianne, Husband Miles,daughter Tina, Son in law Mike , sister Liz,her grandchildren and all of her extended family. Brenda will be remembered for always loving unconditionally, never being selfish and always being true to herself. May you Rest In Peace my friend.
Jean Villano Boyton
left a message on May 25, 2023:
I was touched to tears, watching this beautiful video, honoring dear sweet gentle Brenda!❤️
Yet I was genuinely comforted seeing so many of her priceless family and friends, loving her all of her precious life and surrounding her with their genuine love and support!
I pray that God continues to comfort all of you, by the power of His Holy Spirit, and the promises found in His living WORD, in the Bible!
Jesus said, " Let not your heart be troubled, you believe in God, believe also in Me. In My Father's house are many mansions, where I go to prepare a place for you, that where I am you may be also!"
John 14:1-3
Jesus said, " I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through Me."
John 14:6
Jesus said, " I will pray to the Father, and He will give you another Helper, that He may abide with you forever, even the Spirit of truth, whom the world cannot receive."
John 14:16
Jesus said," If anyone loves Me, he will keep My word, and My Father will love him, and We will come to him and make Our home with him."
John 14:23
Jesus said, "The Helper, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in My name, He will teach you all things and bring to your remembrance all that I said. Peace I leave with you, My peace I give to you, not as the world gives do I give. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid.
John 14:26-27
In Revelation 21:4
" God will wipe away every tear from their eyes,
there shall be no more death, nor sorrow, nor pain, for the form of things have passed away."✝️❤️
My husband and I extend our deepest sorrow and sincere love to all of you, in saying goodbye for now to the most precious beautiful sweet loving soul ever, Brenda. ❤️✝️XOXOXO
JULIO R. SAENZ
left a message on May 24, 2023:
TINA I WANT TO TELL YOU IM SORRY THAT YOUR MOM HAS PASSED. SHE HAS NOW JOINED JAY J. I WISH YOU AND YOUR SONS CONDOLENCES ON YOUR LOSS OF BRENDA. WE ALL WILL GO TO THE SAME PLACE ONE DAY. HOPING YOU CAN CAN LIVE THE REST OF YOU LIFE REMEMBERING THE BEST OF TIMES. NOW TO CONCRNTRATE YOUR BOYS.
Peace of mind is a call away. We’re here when you need us most.
Melissa Flores
left a message on May 23, 2023:
Condolences to Uncle Miles, Tina, her grand babies and Son in law. She loved you all you are her world! She is at peace and free of suffering and pain. She will forever hold a special place in my heart she did gods work without expecting anything in return she was there for me though the difficult times but also shared in the Greats times . She will live on in each cherished memories we all hold close to our hearts. Prayers and Love for her family at this time of loss and grieves
Inge Jorif
left a message on May 23, 2023:
My heartfelt condolences to you and your family!
Mindy and Anthony Messina
left a message on May 23, 2023:
Condolences to the beautiful family of Brenda. Our thoughts and prayers are with you all at this difficult time- Keep all of her memories close to your heart ❤️
Love, Anthony & Mindy Messina.
Aunt Mary
left a message on May 22, 2023:
My sweet beautiful niece whom I loved since the day she was born . She had to handle so much in her life, the worst was her sons death our beautiful boy Jay. The best was her daughter Tina who was there for all of it and her wonderful husband Miles and her 4grandsons that she loved and watched since they were babies. Brenda your whole family is missing you already and will love you always my bonded, blue eyed doll of a niece .
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Kelli and John Puglisi
left a message on May 26, 2023:
Dear Miles, Tina, Michael and children,
We are so sorry for of your loving wife, mom and grandma. She was a special person who always made us feel welcomed. We will keep you all in our thoughts and prayers. We love you all!
Love,
Kelli, John and Family
John, Kelli, Katherine, Danielle
Rose Ortiz (Amaya)
left a message on May 25, 2023:
My Aunt Brenda was an amazing soul whose laugh was contagious. Her smile would light up the room and her strength was something you couldn’t compare to. She wasn’t my aunt by blood, but nothing could make her any less of that title to me. She was always so welcoming and accepted me as family since I was born. I am truly heartbroken by her passing and my prayers are with her loved ones left behind. To Nana Adrianne, Uncle Miles, Tina, Liz, Mike, her grandkids, and extended family my prayers and thoughts are with you always. Her presence will be missed but just know she is with the Lord, her baby boy Jay, and Uncle Dennis watching over you. She’ll be your protector and guardian angel. I love you all
Rest in paradise Aunt Brenda
Rose Gonzales
left a message on May 25, 2023:
Brenda was a great person. Kind,loving, caring and generous. She was one of a kind. Not my sister by blood but by choice. She was a great wife, mother and grandmother, aunt, sister and friend. Her loss is going to have a huge impact on her loved ones. I have many memories of her that will last forever. I will always miss her. My heart aches for Mom Adrianne, Husband Miles,daughter Tina, Son in law Mike , sister Liz,her grandchildren and all of her extended family. Brenda will be remembered for always loving unconditionally, never being selfish and always being true to herself. May you Rest In Peace my friend.
Jean Villano Boyton
left a message on May 25, 2023:
I was touched to tears, watching this beautiful video, honoring dear sweet gentle Brenda!❤️
Yet I was genuinely comforted seeing so many of her priceless family and friends, loving her all of her precious life and surrounding her with their genuine love and support!
I pray that God continues to comfort all of you, by the power of His Holy Spirit, and the promises found in His living WORD, in the Bible!
Jesus said, " Let not your heart be troubled, you believe in God, believe also in Me. In My Father's house are many mansions, where I go to prepare a place for you, that where I am you may be also!"
John 14:1-3
Jesus said, " I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through Me."
John 14:6
Jesus said, " I will pray to the Father, and He will give you another Helper, that He may abide with you forever, even the Spirit of truth, whom the world cannot receive."
John 14:16
Jesus said," If anyone loves Me, he will keep My word, and My Father will love him, and We will come to him and make Our home with him."
John 14:23
Jesus said, "The Helper, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in My name, He will teach you all things and bring to your remembrance all that I said. Peace I leave with you, My peace I give to you, not as the world gives do I give. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid.
John 14:26-27
In Revelation 21:4
" God will wipe away every tear from their eyes,
there shall be no more death, nor sorrow, nor pain, for the form of things have passed away."✝️❤️
My husband and I extend our deepest sorrow and sincere love to all of you, in saying goodbye for now to the most precious beautiful sweet loving soul ever, Brenda. ❤️✝️XOXOXO
JULIO R. SAENZ
left a message on May 24, 2023:
TINA I WANT TO TELL YOU IM SORRY THAT YOUR MOM HAS PASSED. SHE HAS NOW JOINED JAY J. I WISH YOU AND YOUR SONS CONDOLENCES ON YOUR LOSS OF BRENDA. WE ALL WILL GO TO THE SAME PLACE ONE DAY. HOPING YOU CAN CAN LIVE THE REST OF YOU LIFE REMEMBERING THE BEST OF TIMES. NOW TO CONCRNTRATE YOUR BOYS.
Peace of mind is a call away. We’re here when you need us most.
Melissa Flores
left a message on May 23, 2023:
Condolences to Uncle Miles, Tina, her grand babies and Son in law. She loved you all you are her world! She is at peace and free of suffering and pain. She will forever hold a special place in my heart she did gods work without expecting anything in return she was there for me though the difficult times but also shared in the Greats times . She will live on in each cherished memories we all hold close to our hearts. Prayers and Love for her family at this time of loss and grieves
Inge Jorif
left a message on May 23, 2023:
My heartfelt condolences to you and your family!
Mindy and Anthony Messina
left a message on May 23, 2023:
Condolences to the beautiful family of Brenda. Our thoughts and prayers are with you all at this difficult time- Keep all of her memories close to your heart ❤️
Love, Anthony & Mindy Messina.
Aunt Mary
left a message on May 22, 2023:
My sweet beautiful niece whom I loved since the day she was born . She had to handle so much in her life, the worst was her sons death our beautiful boy Jay. The best was her daughter Tina who was there for all of it and her wonderful husband Miles and her 4grandsons that she loved and watched since they were babies. Brenda your whole family is missing you already and will love you always my bonded, blue eyed doll of a niece .
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